I did long distance (international!) with a boyfriend once. I was SO infatuated. I sent care packages. I called. I wrote stories about my day to make it more entertaining. When it ended (while we were still apart) it wasn't until then that I realized he hadn't done anything. I never received any of the things he promised were just waiting for him to get sent out. He never called, only sometimes answered. Never made an effort, but I couldn't see it then.
That's why it was so important for my next relationship that the person I chose was a man of his word who would walk the walk and not just talk the talk.
Took me back. Anyway - I LOVE the open when idea and might do this even though I'm not in a LDR ha! Thanks Nik!
These are some great tips! The "Open when" letters is an especially good idea. My wife and I started out long-distance for about 5 years before we were able to live together. It was difficult, but constant communication and flying out to see each other as often as we could made it bearable. I'm frequently asked how we did it, and I only have 2 pieces of advice, which are: 1-put your shared goals first and yourself second, and 2-DON'T CHEAT ON EACH OTHER. If you do those things (and were compatible in the first place) it certainly increases your chances of making it.
This is wonderful well-thought out advice Nikki! I know a lot of people say LDRs never work out, but I've actually seen them be successful if the couple's love is strong enough. Especially since there's more ways to communicate electronically, now. It's not like it was back in the old Snail Mail days...which no one remembers except me...'cause I'm old as dirt, lol.
I've seen a couple have a LDR where he was in Michigan and she was in Tokyo. After a really long time, they finally moved in together, started a family and everything. I'm sure if they had known your advice back then, it would have been even easier for them 😉
I did long distance (international!) with a boyfriend once. I was SO infatuated. I sent care packages. I called. I wrote stories about my day to make it more entertaining. When it ended (while we were still apart) it wasn't until then that I realized he hadn't done anything. I never received any of the things he promised were just waiting for him to get sent out. He never called, only sometimes answered. Never made an effort, but I couldn't see it then.
That's why it was so important for my next relationship that the person I chose was a man of his word who would walk the walk and not just talk the talk.
Took me back. Anyway - I LOVE the open when idea and might do this even though I'm not in a LDR ha! Thanks Nik!
These are some great tips! The "Open when" letters is an especially good idea. My wife and I started out long-distance for about 5 years before we were able to live together. It was difficult, but constant communication and flying out to see each other as often as we could made it bearable. I'm frequently asked how we did it, and I only have 2 pieces of advice, which are: 1-put your shared goals first and yourself second, and 2-DON'T CHEAT ON EACH OTHER. If you do those things (and were compatible in the first place) it certainly increases your chances of making it.
This is wonderful well-thought out advice Nikki! I know a lot of people say LDRs never work out, but I've actually seen them be successful if the couple's love is strong enough. Especially since there's more ways to communicate electronically, now. It's not like it was back in the old Snail Mail days...which no one remembers except me...'cause I'm old as dirt, lol.
I've seen a couple have a LDR where he was in Michigan and she was in Tokyo. After a really long time, they finally moved in together, started a family and everything. I'm sure if they had known your advice back then, it would have been even easier for them 😉
Take care, Nikki. Hope you are doing well 😊
Beautiful article!! Thank you for the tips. Love is great!